Loosing an online friend...
Many if not all of us know flickr.
You can put up photos in your gallery there, and commenting from fellow flickrites is welcome.
It comes to the point where you sometimes share very personal photos of yourself or your family with virtually the whole wide world, with all sorts of people living in different cultures.
I´ve become a victim (one more time, even) of this. I´ve been banned.
What had happened? A flickr friend had put up a very nice portrait of herself, showing a photo of her head thrown a bit upwards, thus presenting a wonderful necklace decorating her neck, consisting of natural things like shells, bones and nuts, all assembled to give the feeling of leadiing a natural life, somewhere in the outback. The necklace had been made by the daughter of the person whose portrait we (still can) see on flickr.
The person has well-trained skills, also in regard of photography, and photoshopping.
The picture was edited so that everything got a touch of magic, a wonderful piece of art.
Now the comments sections:
I know of quite a few, mainly female flickr users who´ve given up their gallery, or totally blocked it because such pictures like the one described above would attract not only admiring words, but also some sort of indecent talk, mobbing, whatwoever.
Where is the borderline? In my case, in my (several comments) on this particular photo, I went so far (too far?) to value not only the creation, the craft that had been employed to make the photo itself, but I also showed my admiration for how the person is presenting herself in the photo. If you see the photo, you can´t deny that it bears a sphere of sensuality, the mouth, the falling long hair, the neck of the woman.
My commenting words went something like "oh what a beautiful (collar) bone, etc, I didn´t even mention the sensual presentation of her mouth, I only went like "... and there is mOre to it...", hinting, with the capital O, to the presentation of the mouth; and with adding the parenthesised "collar" I was referring not only to the one or two bones which are part of the necklace.
I wonder how a comment of French or Italian admirer would have looked like. They have a whole toolbox to show their appreciation and admiration of female beauty.
In my case, I´m from more Northern latitudes, where people aren´t so open with their words. Even so, my favourable words seemed to have a fatal sting to them...
Could it be the different cultures? My friend (I still call her and her family my friends) lives in the USA, and every now and then we in Europe get word that the New World can sometimes, well, not be that open, esp in regard of how to deal with sensual matters like the above.
Mmm.
The internet is a means to connect people with each other, to form a global brain of understanding.
I cannot find any rudity in my comments, no hint that a female person is just a heap of f.... with legs, not at all. I find this way of thinking of a (female) person as deeply disgusting!!
Instead there were my words of admiration for the sensual impression which the photo gives.
Here are the final words of my flickr friend which she wrote only this morning. A most lively, open-minded person.
With the consequence of myself being blocked from her and her family´s photo gallery.
""For many many years I had given up on men, as I found most of them to be disrespectful (treating the ladies like nothing more than a "piece of meat" with legs....) I feel beyond lucky to have a most wonderful man in my life who has manners/is respectful... a very good family man, who doesn't follow the norm (following along w/ societies demented/perverse perspective on everything & using it as an excuse for bad behavior). Thank you babe , I love YOU!!!!!
It's sad that one can't even share a photograph of a necklace made by their child... without having to hear *that* (Mister BEEP's uncalled for comments). Surely it makes me wonder... what is this world coming to????!!!!!!! : O Some things are much better left "unsaid"...
~[]~
(Who's officially making use of the "delete" button & unsure how long she may remain online ='s annoyed w/stupidity which comes with it all *sigh*)""
You can put up photos in your gallery there, and commenting from fellow flickrites is welcome.
It comes to the point where you sometimes share very personal photos of yourself or your family with virtually the whole wide world, with all sorts of people living in different cultures.
I´ve become a victim (one more time, even) of this. I´ve been banned.
What had happened? A flickr friend had put up a very nice portrait of herself, showing a photo of her head thrown a bit upwards, thus presenting a wonderful necklace decorating her neck, consisting of natural things like shells, bones and nuts, all assembled to give the feeling of leadiing a natural life, somewhere in the outback. The necklace had been made by the daughter of the person whose portrait we (still can) see on flickr.
The person has well-trained skills, also in regard of photography, and photoshopping.
The picture was edited so that everything got a touch of magic, a wonderful piece of art.
Now the comments sections:
I know of quite a few, mainly female flickr users who´ve given up their gallery, or totally blocked it because such pictures like the one described above would attract not only admiring words, but also some sort of indecent talk, mobbing, whatwoever.
Where is the borderline? In my case, in my (several comments) on this particular photo, I went so far (too far?) to value not only the creation, the craft that had been employed to make the photo itself, but I also showed my admiration for how the person is presenting herself in the photo. If you see the photo, you can´t deny that it bears a sphere of sensuality, the mouth, the falling long hair, the neck of the woman.
My commenting words went something like "oh what a beautiful (collar) bone, etc, I didn´t even mention the sensual presentation of her mouth, I only went like "... and there is mOre to it...", hinting, with the capital O, to the presentation of the mouth; and with adding the parenthesised "collar" I was referring not only to the one or two bones which are part of the necklace.
I wonder how a comment of French or Italian admirer would have looked like. They have a whole toolbox to show their appreciation and admiration of female beauty.
In my case, I´m from more Northern latitudes, where people aren´t so open with their words. Even so, my favourable words seemed to have a fatal sting to them...
Could it be the different cultures? My friend (I still call her and her family my friends) lives in the USA, and every now and then we in Europe get word that the New World can sometimes, well, not be that open, esp in regard of how to deal with sensual matters like the above.
Mmm.
The internet is a means to connect people with each other, to form a global brain of understanding.
I cannot find any rudity in my comments, no hint that a female person is just a heap of f.... with legs, not at all. I find this way of thinking of a (female) person as deeply disgusting!!
Instead there were my words of admiration for the sensual impression which the photo gives.
Here are the final words of my flickr friend which she wrote only this morning. A most lively, open-minded person.
With the consequence of myself being blocked from her and her family´s photo gallery.
""For many many years I had given up on men, as I found most of them to be disrespectful (treating the ladies like nothing more than a "piece of meat" with legs....) I feel beyond lucky to have a most wonderful man in my life who has manners/is respectful... a very good family man, who doesn't follow the norm (following along w/ societies demented/perverse perspective on everything & using it as an excuse for bad behavior). Thank you babe , I love YOU!!!!!
It's sad that one can't even share a photograph of a necklace made by their child... without having to hear *that* (Mister BEEP's uncalled for comments). Surely it makes me wonder... what is this world coming to????!!!!!!! : O Some things are much better left "unsaid"...
~[]~
(Who's officially making use of the "delete" button & unsure how long she may remain online ='s annoyed w/stupidity which comes with it all *sigh*)""
posted by Monsieur Beep! | 12:50 PM
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